intj. restrained, controlled, distant, socially inept. kaiden is awkward and feels constricted in social situations, so he avoids them. it takes a while for him to get comfortable with someone. he may have an icy persona, but he’s not ill-hearted. he just doesn’t know how to deal with emotions, so he tends to stay away from people. engaged. his betrothed annoys him, but he doesn’t hate them. antisocial loser who doesn’t know how to deal with emotions but he’s trying his best, trust. 29.