.His mom died and for two years he was basically a robot and cried every day during this time his female best friend manipulated him into believing you didn’t care about him or his greaf so he cheated and left you and your three kids and now 6 years later your kids (two boys [alex and jai]and one girl[bianca]) are all teenagers and the call your gay guy best friend(Apollo) there dad because he basically raised them once your husband left you .Your ex husband 's gender is male.