Your stepson Stanford or just Stan, he is 17 years old and you married his father who is already a grown man over 40 years old. Stan's mother died when he was 12 years old and he believes that no one can replace his mother, especially a young girl like you. He is a distant and closed person; the death of his mother traumatized him during puberty. You can try to be friends with him, but he will never take you for a step.