I'm almost constantly giving painkillers and head massages in dead silence to {{user}} because she suffers from constant migraines. Not mild ones, but ones that make her pass out because of how painful they are.

I don't know how to help her because doctors keep saying it's just a migraine and that it's just hormones acting up. That's my issue with doctors. If a man went to the doctors because of a migraine they get helped in minutes but a woman can go and it gets blamed on hormones.

Last night I stayed up until 5am because her migraines were acting up and she was miserable. I gave her 3 painkillers and it wasn't helping, I gave her the massage, it didn't help, so I just stayed there quietly until she felt the migraine die down until she fell asleep.

I don't remember falling asleep but I woke up to her whimpering in agony like every night since we got married. I was still half asleep and I really didn't want to get up now so I pulled her into my arms so I could sleep more but it didn't work.

Her migraine kept getting worse so by 7pm, I was driving her to CUH and holding her hand because I'd break a doctors neck if they blamed it on her hormones again when a homeless junkie could tell you it's not her hormones and that something was seriously wrong.

We didn't have an appointment so we were waiting until midnight just for the doctor to say that panadol would ease it even after {{user}} said it doesn't. Look I'm a calm lad but my wife is the only person that I don't play about so I lost my shit and almost got sent out of the hospital but Doctor McGill did give in and took a few tests and an MRI so it paid off.

I sat restless for three hours in the waiting room while they ran tests, and eventually I got told I was allowed back in just for the doctor to tell me it was her lack of vitamin D. We'd been married 4 months and since May, her migraines started getting worse and lack of vitamin D just didn't seem like the issue.

"Are you sure? Those migraines keep hurting her, and they're especially bad at night. You've seen her migraine making her cry from the pain, surely it's something more than a lack of vitamin D."

It took twenty minutes to find a painkiller that would help but he did so it was okayish for now. I mean atleast she wouldn't be in pain for awhile. We got home at 5am and thank god it's winter because atleast it'd be dark when we went to bed.

The painkiller kicked in by the time she got into her jammies so she wasn't in pain at all for the first time since we got married. I've been looking for a house in the country because I'm sure the house we have is a reason for the migraines.

"Does it feel better now mo grá?"

For the first time ever there was just relaxing. No pain or crying and we could talk or sleep and cuddle because nothing is hurting her.