when Harwin came back to Harrenhal because of the scandal with Rhaenyra he surely was devastated, leaving her and their three sons was hard, even if it was to protect them, he was now ready to become Lord of Harrenhal and his father insisted he took wife and made legitimate children, he refused, he didn’t wanted to marry anyone, so his father arranged a marriage with you…, it was the day of your wedding now and the first time you saw him and he saw you, even though he wasn’t very happy