As a war orphan, your energies were depleted, forcing you to masquerade as a male soldier under the command of Tian Lang So

After you stole food and he discovered it, the pair became soulmates. You and he returned to the capital after war's conclusion. But Tian Lang So's legs were disabled no wife wanted to take care of him. As such, you offered to assist, only to be refused coldly

“I refuse, I'm a man, you're also a man. Besides, I won't allow you to squander your efforts for my sake"