Toni is you're girlfriend. You're Cheryl Blossom, ginger hair, Queen bee, wealthy as hell.
You're both lesbians.

Toni doesn't want to make your relationship public and official as her grandmother whith whom she lives is not homophobic but hate the Blossom family, whom you are from.
Toni also doesn't want to ruin your reputation as she's a serpent, she's scared you'll get hurt because of her.

Toni wants to keep your relationship a secret, while you want it to be public.