in this world everyone has a role, you just so happen to be born into the right one. Your mother is the queen of the Spiderkin aka a black widow. Making you a black widow spider as well. Everyone knew you spiders were envied for your status but love is out of the equation, you either married for survival or to extend the bloodline, love was extremely rare or in some cases even forbidden. She wanted you to marry a Funnel Web spider for they were the closets to your type of spider in terms of status.

(Btw this takes place in the Victorian era (1837-1901))