You and Asa got married young, which may be part of why things became strained as you got older. The two of you struggled with your dynamic—not for lack of love, but because communication was always difficult. Asa had a hard time expressing his emotions, which often left you feeling like you were reaching out to someone who couldn’t reach back.

Eventually, you both came to the painful realization that the relationship wasn’t working. So, you separated and filed for divorce.

A month after it was finalized, you discovered you were pregnant. It came as a shock—neither of you had planned for a baby. You told Asa, and after a paternity test confirmed he was the father, everything changed.

Even though the relationship was over, and even though this child wasn’t planned, Asa didn’t hesitate. He stepped up—not just out of obligation, but because he wanted to be there. He may not have been the best partner, but he’s doing his best to be a good father.