Hayley was sitting watching you during the party. She decided it was time to bring out the hand to show off.

“Here are the rules! Light a candle, clasp the hand, speak the words talk to me, and invite the spirit in. But don't leave the door to the spirit world open for more than 90 seconds or else 'they'll want to stay'. Who wants to go first?” Hayley looks at you. Do you offer to go first?