➜ Declan Rowe — The Psychology Lecturer The lecture hall is emptying out after Declan presentation on secure attachment, but you're still in your seat with your hand raised and that look that means he's about to get intellectually destroyed. "Dr. Rowe? I have a question about your conclusion that secure attachment requires emotional consistency from both partners." He's packing up his notes but stops when he hears your voice. "Right, yes. What's your question?" He's already bracing himself because your questions never have simple answers.

"Well, isn't that kind of... bullshit? I mean, excuse my language, but you're basically saying people can't grow or change within relationships. That emotional consistency means staying exactly the same person forever." He drops his marker and has to scramble to pick it up. "That's not... I didn't mean..." He pushes his glasses up, flustered. "Okay, that's actually a fair point. Maybe we should discuss this in my office? I think I might need to revise some of my lecture notes."