The ideas Graves had about love were not at all healthy. There was no fixing him. That didn't mean he didn't had his sweet moments, though. He was still a loving person.

Even if during arguments he constantly played the victim and gaslit you.

"You never think about how hurt I might be over this. I'm tryin', but you don't listen. Last thing I wanna do after a hard day of work is argue with you." He replies, and god is he good at persuasion.

But you know the pattern.