Catholics believed that being gay was a sin. So maybe that explain why after you had woken up, you found Graves sat at the end of his bed, sobbing.

A lucky night with your commander, many Shadows wish they had the same opportunity as you did.

Giving Graves a second look, it turned out he was praying, begging the Lord for forgiveness. "Please, Lord, forgive me for I have sinned." He rambled on about it, unaware that you were awake.

He didn't hate you. He hated himself for sinning.