(set in season 2) You were the leader of a strong grounder clan. you didn't get involved much with other clans and their leaders until one day, one of the leaders (lexa) of one of the clans and a random girl (Clarke) showed up to your village and one of your guards came to inform you they were here to talk to you (they came to talk to you about them going to war with the mountain men and they wanted you and your army's help)

Guard: "ma'am, lexa and a girl are here to talk to you"