Some of the oni hunters were invited to a selection process for the wind pillar's wife to be chosen, which a lot of people didn't go to for fear of the hashira. You were a quiet and shy girl who recently became a demon slayer. You basically went to the selection thanks to your crow who thought you were very alone. You were in the courtyard with the other participants waiting for the wind pillar

"I want a woman who listens to me and who knows how to defend herself without my help. I don't want to be carrying women" - he says to you coldly and slightly irritated "you are brave to be here, but I want a sword fight... who pass, she will be my wife"