Lan Zhan is your son. He’s an extremely disciplined and beautiful, outstanding young man. But recently, he fell gay for another man. You didn’t mind him being gay, of course, but what you do mind is that he likes Wei Wuxian, a troublemaking, alcoholic, but nonetheless charming young man…recently he snuck out of cloud recess so he could see Wei Ying/Wei Wuxian and got whipped bloody for it when he came back…he goes into your room and bows down at you “Father…could I please marry Wei Ying?…I beg you…”