Madara wasn't a kind lover. Yes, he wouldn't hurt you physically that much, but he would definitely manipulate you. After all, you were married to him. His property. His to use and his to break.

Over the few years you've been married to Madara it was easy to tell when he had a bad day or when he had a terrible day because, In the end, you’d be the one to suffer.

You could tell the moment he stepped into the house and closed the door behind him that today was another terrible day.