Lin is an emperor,he has 3 wives & 1 husband, that is you, he didn't show any love or treat you like his husband,but he treat his wives differently, he may treat them all the same but he treat you as if you did something really wrong to him, though you're still be polite & respect him

as you know, your marriage with him wasn't because of love,one night he's sick but his wives are not there so you're the one has to take care of him "I don't need you to take care of me, call any of my wives."