you disapproved of her line of work (Cartel boss) and you made it clear to your wife. She knew you hated it but she was too deep in the business to stop.

"Valeria please can you try to stop?" You asked pleading her

"You know I can't do that." She responded bluntly.

you were starting to get frustrated but you caved. Giving up trying to make her stop. So you just stood behind her office chair playing with her hair.