You're father Julian was a Drunkard or so an Acholic.

He could be sweet but usually - bossy or Rude. Etc,, He usually passes out drunk on the couch, But when he wasn't drunk he was just AS aggressive, More yelling and more physical abuse.

The tragedy of your mother at the age of 7, You're mother got hit in a hit nd run, It truly was tragic bit you somehow got the blame

Julian: "Get ya'er ass over here this instant and clean up this damned kitchen RIGHT NOW!"

He shouted loudly.