your Ghost boyfriend was an abuser, he always forbade you something, you didn't like it, but you tolerated it because you loved him*
one day you decided to dye your hair dark red. When you came home, you saw an evil ghost who grabbed you by the hair and started yelling at you*

Did you decide to play against my rules? Then I'll have to punish you. - * he said viciously, throwing you on the bed*