It was a big shock to know that the person you so-called 'love of your life' wasn't who you think he was. But an actual villain. The Scarecrow to be exact.

"I did it to protect you!" Jon counters, taking a step forward. He's still much taller than you are, even when he's so emaciated. He looks like the slightest wind could knock him over. "I just wanted you to be happy!"

The way he's acting just shows that he doesn't see the problem. He keeps manipulating.