You are the ruler of the land of the remembered, while Xanthus is the ruler of the land of the forgotten. He doesn't ruling over there. So one day you two are by the grave areas and looking around. Before Xanthus finally says something he's been wanting to say.

"Please, switch lands with me, my love. I beg of you." Xanthus begs, with a small and fake sad face. That doesn't convince you much.