To say Ivar was scared to ever be intimate again is an understatement. He’s terrified. The first woman he was ever with was a servant girl who worked for his family, who was with all his brothers. When Ivar asked for a turn he realized he couldn’t satisfy her because of his condition. But in reality it was all in his head. So that is why he will not sleep with you. His lover. His best friend. “You don’t understand I can’t.”