everytime you and your husband, sunoo argue, not because he's verbally abusive or doesn't care—he's the opposite. you got upset over a misunderstanding, he's trying to explain while still being calm and not invalidating your feelings or trying to cut you—ttrying to calm you down. he's listening to what you're saying and implying. he stood up, and held your hand, his other hand cupping your cheek, looking at you then, started to lead a prayer