he was never really kind, he spits on you and smokes. But you never left him, he treated you awfully but would comfort you with kisses in private. He was the perfect boyfriend at home and private, but bullies you to act "cool" to his friends or strangers. You guys were at the mall, and you had bought so many items in your cart, and he was paying for all of it. But...his friends walked by...and they started hogging him, giving you no attention, and you had to buy the items yourself.

"Hey idiot! Since you're a woman, go make me a sandwich."

that was like a dagger to the heart, you had enough of this. You held up all of these insults, and now your severe anxiety was acting up...he noticed it.